Week 1 at Seashore House 2007

Tonight I’m doing some reflections on Tam’s first week at Seashore House (hereafter known as SSH) in July 2007. The transition from the main hospital was very different as we expected, but it was also full of changes, and growth which we can only attribute to Awesomeness of God! I remember it being quite a trying time for Tamara as I think she had gotten accustomed to being treated like a Princess in the Main Hospital; over at SSH, not so much. J  Not that SSH is a dungeon by any means, but there is clearly a difference in the surroundings. J  The first big change for Sharon was that she was finally comfortable leaving to go home for the weekends. I was there every night after work but Shar had been there 24/7 from the time Tam was admitted until we moved to Rehab (2 weeks). It was great time for mommy and our other 2 children to reconnect! It was also going to give me much needed one on one time with Tamara Morgan, which I so missed! Thinking back over that time I am so incredibly thankful to God for the Blessing Sharon has been in my life and I could not ask for a better wife, nor could the kids ask for a better mother! 

During my travels to and from CHoP, I listened to a lot of great music (Casting Crowns, Third Day and Jars of Clay). I remember how the lyrics, the music and overall message and mood of the songs lifted me to a higher place, cleared my mind from the craziness of work and made the drive to Philly almost bearable, almost. One night in my first weekend staying with Tam, there was a terrible thunder storm and an old song popped into my head. It was an old hymn by Mosie Lister called “Til the Storm Passes By”.  Below are the opening lyrics….

In the dark of the midnight have I oft hid my face, while the storm howls above me, and there's no hiding place.

'Mid the crash of the thunder, Precious Lord, hear my cry; Keep me safe till the storm passes by.

Till the storm passes over, till the thunder sounds no more, till the clouds roll forever from the sky;

Hold me fast, let me stand in the hollow of Thy hand, Keep me safe till the storm passes by.

As the days went on, Dr’s and Nurses alike said they could not believe how quickly Tamara was recovering, and although she was nowhere near baseline, she was growing nonetheless. When we left the PICU we left behind our favorite nurse and new friend Katherine; when we transitioned to SSH we got Nurse Kelly, and she was terrific as well! Anyone who knows Tam knows how completely silly she can be, and Kelly was great with it, being just as silly and goofy right back to Tam and making an immediate connection and a new little friend at the same time.

We were not only making new friends on this excursion off the beaten path, but we were also overwhelmed by the amount of love and support from family, friends, neighbors, co-workers and yes again, even strangers. As it says in Ecclesiastes 4:12, “And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” So many times from the beginning of this ordeal we have had people come along side and pray with us, and for us, that this verse truly began to something to me personally for the first time in my Christian experience.

Above all, God was and is our strength through the trials of life and we give Him all praise and glory and honor for it!!! I really hope you have the time to read through my updates below and the various e-mails from well wishers so you can get a deeper appreciation for the support system we had in place. You will also see one comment toward the end of the list that really hits the mark as to why I’m doing what I’m doing here. I thank my friend Eric for his words….and yes it is now finally “one day”, and it is truly wonderful to look back on those times, and remember; remember God’s strength like we never felt it before, remember His provision for everything we needed, to also remember mercy in allowing Tamara to come all the way back to us, to remember that He is always here with us, just as He promised! Thanks for checking in and continuing to share this journey with us. Below are the updates I wrote during that first weekend at SSH, and some of the e-mails we rec’d. Read through when you have a few moments and be encouraged!

Tam Update 7-19

Thursday, July 19, 2007 5:31 PM

Tam had a pretty good day yesterday after she calmed down from being moved to the Seashore House. She is in room 318 and she really seemed to like it when we read her E-cards, and the cards and letters we have been receiving at home.  Keep them coming folks. Contact with the outside world helps to keep us calm, connected and sane. A couple of the cards made Shar and I cry…but they were tears of Joy people, so please keep them coming!

Beginning tomorrow night I will be staying at Seashore House on the weekends so Shar can come home and spend time with Ally and Nathaniel. One of the most difficult things to deal with has been the temporary split up of our family. Our younger children have been with my Parents every day since the accident and although they love their Grandchildren and want them there, Nina and Grand-Dad are just going to need a break too eventually! One of us will be staying with Tam every day until she comes home again and that means that one piece of the puzzle of our family will always be missing til that happens. Pray that Tam's recovery goes smoothly and quickly and that we can get her home as soon as she is ready!

So, today…..let’s get right to the highlights as there were no other lights to mention!

•Tamara had PT (stood up a couple of times at the Parallel Bars) Grumbled a bit at first but then worked with the Therapists and was pretty tired when she came back to her room.  This is Good!

•She spoke, 1 word, better than none!  She pointed to her bed while sitting in her chair and when asked if she wanted to lay down she said “yes”. Tiny word, only 3 letters but HUGE for Mommy and the therapists to hear!

•Tamara had Soup!!!!  (A few spoonfuls anyway)  Anyone who knows my daughter knows how much she loves soup. If she could live on Soup and Mac n Cheese she would be as happy as a clam.  Now our prayer here is that she stays interested in eating and drinking things so we can lose the Tubes! 

•She got to wear her own clothing for the first time since the accident, and that must have been so nice for her!!!!

 As she begins to get back into some of life's routines her recovery should move along at an increasing rate. 

Tam’s Dr. said the weakness on her left side, can be attributed to her Brain Injury and we should see normal function again as her brain continues to heal. Also the fact that has been speaking, led him to state that she will speak again, even if we don’t hear anything for a day or so.

I am going to find videos of Tamara so her Therapists can get a good idea of what her capabilities were and will be again!!!!

Well, I’m off to see my girls.  More tomorrow!

P <><

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Tam Update 7-20 to 7-23

Monday, July 23, 2007 5:38 PM

Tam had a Great weekend! She was more alert and spoke so much that Shar and I couldn't keep track any more. She drank Chocolate milk a couple of times and shared some soup with me on Sunday, and had a little Vanilla Ice Cream for Desert. AND......she ate real food today for lunch for the first time in 2 weeks! Woohoolelujah!!!!  Mac n Cheese, Mashed Potato's and gravy, Chocolate Pudding, and Chocolate Milk.

The dreaded NG (Feeding Tube) can come out soon....probably as soon as we're sure that she'll take her meds by mouth. We are more than Happy!!!!!!!

 I'm heading down to CHOP now and wanted to let you know that we still appreciate everyone's Calls, and Letters, and E-mails and Cards! They mean a lot and the personal visits are Welcomed also!

 We were told on Saturday that Tam's time at Seashore House could be as long as 2 months but I'm not so sure she'll be there that long after the breakout weekend she had and the start of this week! 

 It was great to spend the one on one time with my “Tamarama” this weekend and I also got to spend some alone time with Ally and Nathaniel last night after we came home from the Hospital. It's hard trying to get time with everyone but we'll make it work.

 More later when I get back home. Sorry for the lack of follow up over the weekend!

 Thanks "P"  <>< 

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Tam Update 7-23 (part 2)

Tuesday, July 24, 2007 12:37 AM

Got home from CHOP around 11:30 pm and just wanted to give another quick update! 

Tam was outside in the courtyard going for a walk with Mommy (albeit in a wheelchair) when I arrived downtown. She loves the wind in her face, but it was a bit chilly so she didn't stay out too long.

When we got back upstairs her dinner arrived. And she had a mini feast of Spaghetti....Potato's.....a scrambled egg....Jell-O, Peaches, and Chocolate Milk!

Tam will stay on the nighttime feeds through the tube for a couple of days but we should see it come out by the weekend! Woo Hoo!

The cervical collar will most likely stay on for 2 weeks, and the Full leg cast will be reduced to the lower leg also in about 2 weeks!

I guess it's a foregone conclusion at this point but our move to Cincinnati is on indefinite hold.

Keep praying for Tam's recovery and for Shar and I to make wise decisions in the days, weeks and months ahead!

Goodnight!

P  <><

Romans 1:16

I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile.

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Emails from July 18-23 2007

Hey Peter, Need Tam's room number to send her the card. We are flying home from London tomorrow so let us know if you need anything. Take care and best to Tam

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I sent Tam an e-card today, but didn't know her unit or room number. I was guessing PICU...Hope she gets it.

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You are in my prayers Peter.

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Peter,

We love the blathering...which really isn't blathering. The prayer group at Merck continues to pray for Tam.  God's Blessings

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Hey...we are praying for Tam and you guys!! God is in control as you know.

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I just sent her an e-card. Hope they deliver it!

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Pete:  Thank you for keeping us updated on Tamara, and how we can pray for her and for you. We are encouraged that she is making progress (being fussy is progress), and that she will be home very soon.

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Hi Peter, I have been receiving updates on Tamara. I am so happy she is doing better. I know it takes one day at a time for her to get better and as you have said all along prayer is a big help. I pray for her and all of you every day. Give her a kiss from me when you see her. Say hi to Sharon too. Could you add me to your email list?  Have a good day and good luck with the move to the seashore house.

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Peter,

Our thoughts and prayers will be with everyone! Let us know how things are going when you get a chance, but please don't worry about going out of your way.

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Just want you to know, Tam and your family are in our constant thoughts and prays. Be strong my friend.

PS. Ask the hospital if they have the caringbridge website or another one like I have for E. It is Sooooo much easier to update people. You make one update people go to the website and check. You are not answering or responding to a million well wishers like me.

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Hi Peter,

Please forgive my ignorance on your answering machine at home and Sharon's cell phone ( I had NO IDEA things were not better with Tamara). To make a long story short, I go to Davisville Church (where your brother-in-law goes) and heard about Tam's accident the Sunday night it happened.  I only got an update from him after her surgery when things I guess were going well. I just assumed everything was fine, and then I received a call from someone who told me different. She then forwarded all your emails to me. 

WOW...what a few weeks. I am glad to hear that Tamara is taking small steps towards recovery. How exciting the smallest things must be! 

I don't want to take your time reading my email, so please know that my family is praying for Tam's recovery and your family's strength/patience through this time. Also know that I am a believer too and what an amazing testimony you are sharing to others. I'm not sure you are aware the depth that you are touching others and making them question things, but you are!!

I began my career at Seashore House, what a great rehab place to be!! If the OT there needs any info from me, PLEASE have them call/email. I'd be more than happy to talk to them. 

One more thing, if it's not too much trouble, can you add me onto your email list?

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Hi Peter: Thank you so much for the update. We will continue to pray for her. It is a long, tough recovery. How long will she need to stay at the seashore house?  Please let me know if we can do anything for you.

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Peter,

I don't want to bother you at your job, so if there is another you want us to use, send the address to us. We only have the Team Tamara one on our records. Please feel free to send any updates to our home address (xxxxxxxxxxxxx@juno.com)  so that I also can be kept up on what is going on. We have Sharon's cell phone number so I am going to try to call that tonight. Hopefully I can catch you at a good time. Please know we are praying for you. It was quite a shock to hear about all this and we were very sorry we did not know - we could have stopped in on the way home from Ocean City. We were so close yet so far! Call us if you need anything, if there are changes, even just to vent.  Anytime of day or night.

Love you guys!

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Would it be ok to come tomorrow afternoon?  (Friday) Is she at the Seashore House? She has remained in my prayers. _________________________________________________________________________________

Hi Peter & Sharon,

You all have been in our prayers every day. Our thoughts and concerns go out to you all. I am so sorry for what happened but am so encouraged to read the forwarded emails from Peter and hear how God is at work. Praise Him! We wonder why we have to go through these trying times but I know your whole family will have treasures stored up heaven by your testimony through this accident.

Poor Tam! She is in our prayers and we hope her recovery is quick. I have run into so many people at VBS this week who have asked about her who do not even know you all and who do not go to FBC.  It is amazing how God works and He is working through you all :)  and to those who you have never even met! 

Please let us know how we can be of help. If we can help with the kids, etc. I would love to come and visit as well if I can. Can kids come? I know ours would love to come too but I don't know what would be too much? Take care and know that you are missed and loved and prayed for!

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Dear Stacheleks and Stauffers,

Just a note to say how much we appreciate being kept informed on Tam's recovery. Peter, you have done an excellent job of keeping us up on things and presenting your testimony at the same time. I honestly don't know how people without a real relationship with our Savior get through the tough times. I have been forwarding your emails to my sisters and my children and we have all been praying for you both.

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Peter, I was on vacation and just now learned of the accident. I know it must be draining to keep talking to people so I'm avoiding stopping in, but wanted to be sure you know that I'm keeping all of you in my prayers. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help in any way possible. 

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Peter and Sharron,

We have been getting the Tam updates this week via Aunt Letty, then my mom, to us. Our hearts go out to you guys up there. The situation sounded so horrible at first, but as the week went on, it was so encouraging to hear all of the hope and praise in Peter's e-mails. And her recovery sounds remarkable. Praise the Lord. We will continue to pray for her and the rest of your family as she enters rehab and deals with the cast and collar. At least her NGT is out, right? I know those things are wretched. God has quite a way of revealing himself doesn't he?? But it is at these times that we are not just lead, but carried. With much love and prayers,

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Hi Peter,

I sent a card to Tamara yesterday but I didn’t have the room number. If she didn’t get it, let me know and I will send another one now that I have the room #, 318 right? You are all in our prayers.

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Hi Peter

It is so good to hear the updates you send through to the ABF. Thank you for doing so and making time for it. I am sure you and Sharon are exhausted, and at the same time I am sure it has been good to see the steps Tamara is making....

We are just right around the corner. Please if you are ever in need or in a jam with the children etc... we are willing to help. I just wanted to say thank you for your latest scripture reference of Joshua 24:14-15....."choose for yourself TODAY whom you will serve".....that really spoke to me, in how I react to each situation in my life. Mainly as a mother. Thank you for reaching out with verses that are meaningful to you and in return been applicable in my life. May God bless each one of you today.  Love in Christ

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Your outlook on life is really inspirational Peter  :0)

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Hi Peter;

Friends from Abington were asking for your home address to send cards, rather than to the hospital. I told them I would email you and ask for it. Praise God for Tams awesome weekend...HE IS SO GOOD!!!!

Tell Sharon hello and we will still keep doing our job...praising and praying!

Also, some our friends from work wanted to send Tam something. We were wondering if we should send it now while she is at the Seashore House or wait until she is back home. I didn't know how crowded the rooms were where she is staying.  Let us know what you think is best!  :o)

In Christ

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Peter,

PRAISES TO HIM! I was so glad to read this message from you. This has to be such a relief for your family and my and I are so happy that the Lord has worked in this way for Tam!

My best to all of you, and you are all in our prayers!

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YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Wonderful news!!! You never told me where the Seashore House is. I would like to see Tam or at the very least send her a card. I'm so happy now!!!

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Sounds like she is coming along very well! I look forward to coming in the morning to read how much progress she is making. Keep the good news coming and before you know it she will be home.

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Another great update, Peter!  

Maybe the best one yet.  It is as if this past weekend Tam turned the corner.

Praise God!

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Peter...you are such a good writer. It is a pleasure to get the updates! You and Shar have so much faith and trust. This is such a testimony what you are going through and how you are handling it. I tell you what, something like this happening to someone you know just makes you stop and think how God is working in your own life. Sometimes you don't always see it.  YOU are seeing every detail and it is just so wonderful to hear that Tam is recovering more and more each day. I continue to pray for your family and especially Tams desire to cooperate with therapy.

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GREAT TAM UPDATE ……I PRAY THEY KEEP GETTING BETTER :)

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Thanks for the update and glad to hear she’s moving in the right direction. Won’t this be an interesting journey to look back on one day?

Time to go to Seashore House...oops, not yet.

Back to Day 1 for just a moment or so for just one more “God thing”, if you will. The first person on the scene after Tamara’s accident was a Pediatric Orthopedic Surgeon! Dr. G. just "happened" to be out running with a friend that morning, and she just "happened" to be running by the Hospital, at just the right time, and was able to perform triage and the initial evaluation of Tam while waiting for emergency medical personnel to arrive. We are still amazed by this and ever so thankful to the Lord for His provision of just the right person, at just the right time! Oh, and another thing, and really the only thing that upset Shar and I in that first week. You see, when Tamara was brought into CHOP, she came in as a Jane Doe, because she arrived there well ahead of us. So, outside of her room in the PICU for the first 3 days the name Tamara was not posted at the doorway, it was Omega 50 Omega.  Understandable for the first half hour or so, but it took 3 days for that blasted sign to come and it was only after I asked and asked and asked again, and then finally threatened to take it down myself that it was replaced with her name….Tamara!  Wow!  Glad to get that off my chest.  😊

So, where were we?  Oh yes, we were now finished at CHOP after a week, and now Tamara was ready to transition over to Seashore House for Rehab.  We were truly thinking it would be for maybe 2 – 3 weeks, then we noticed an issue with Tamara’s motor function which was concerning to say the least.  One thing that happens in cases like this (and I’m not placing blame) is that occasionally a patient will have certain effects of an injury which are missed because diagnostic testing doesn't pick them up, so you must wait for them to present themselves through routine activities. We noticed when Tamara would roll over in her bed that her left side lagged behind a bit, and nobody really thought anything about it, we were all thinking it was post-concussion related, but when it came time for her to begin therapy is when some additional tests were performed and it was discovered that she was not only suffering from Post-Concussion Syndrome, but that she had in fact incurred a Traumatic Brain Injury. This is what was impacting the motor function on the entire left side of her body, almost like she had been the victim of a stroke, or other event. The 2 – 3 week time frame we had originally been given was now possibly going to stretch into 2 – 3 months and that was almost too much to bear, as we just wanted our family back home, together! I remember Sharon calling me to tell me that Tam might be home as soon as 2 – 3 weeks, and then just a short time later she called to give me the revised numbers. My heart was breaking for my wife as she had already given so much of herself, staying with Tam 24-7 since July 8th, that I really wasn't sure how much more she could handle physically and have it be healthy.

Our Silent Evangelist!

That’s how I referred to Tamara when I heard how much her life was impacting people of all walks, or religious backgrounds or whatever. Even though she hadn't really said all that much, her beautiful little spirit was speaking through the silence, and the faith of our family (even though being tested beyond what we could imagine) was being grown and strengthened to levels we never thought possible. So also were the lives of many family members, friends, co-workers, and even a few strangers.

Below are a few more updates from me, and a few more e-mails that I dug up if you have a few moments to read them.  I’m also attaching some pics from those first couple of days at Seashore House.  Enjoy, and be blessed!  <><

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Tam Update 7-16 // 12:08 pm

Spoke with Shar this morning and Tam’s MRI is scheduled for 4:00.  If things look good she’ll be cleared to move over to the Seashore House as early as tonight.   She’s progressing slowly but surely, and I’ll take that any day!

More info when I have something to report…..

 P <><

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Tam Update 7-16 // 4:01 pm

Tam is headed to MRI right now……and in all likelihood after her successful time with PT and OT today will be heading to the Seashore House tomorrow. For those who are not familiar with it, it is the Rehab Service connected to CHOP.

Tam spent some time in a chair a well as some in a special wheel chair. She played Mr. Potato-head with her OT person, and Shar said she did pretty well. I’m beaming right now!!!!

Each day she seems a little more coherent and together. I’m taking down some of her favorite outfits for her to wear during Therapy over the next couple of weeks and I think more connections with things from home will be a huge help!

She really seemed to enjoy Ally and Nathaniel visiting yesterday and seeing my Parents was also a help.

Later from CHOP!

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 Tam Update 7-17 //  12:30 am

Some of the info below may be a repeat, but I inadvertently knocked some people off the list and wanted to make sure everyone was on the same page going forward.  That’s what I get for trying to write these updates when I get home late at night.

 Tam had a good day…..MRI went off without a hitch now we just need results, and she only pulled out her NG tube once today!  Adults pull them out all of them time so why do we expect a 9 yr old to leave it in.  Food for thought…

 Anyway, she is moving to Seashore House tomorrow afternoon and as I said earlier, she will be there 2-3 weeks.  For those who are not familiar with it, Seashore House is the Rehab Service connected to CHOP.  We already know many of the Therapists and are very encouraged by what they say they can do for her!

 Each day she seems a little more coherent and together whether she speaks to us or not.  I’m taking down some of her favorite outfits for her to wear during Therapy over the next couple of weeks and I think more connections with things from home will be a huge help!

 After her successful time with PT and OT today Shar and I are in 100% agreement that inpatient rehab is so the best way to go.  Tam got out of bed for the first time and spent some time in a chair this morning as well as some in a special wheel chair.  She played Mr. Potato-head with her OT person, and Shar said she did pretty well.  I’m beaming right now!!!!

She really seemed to enjoy Ally and Nathaniel visiting yesterday after Church and seeing my Parents was also a plus.

I apologize if my e-mails have been all over the spectrum this week, but she has truly been up one minute and down the next and honestly it’s tough keeping up.  I’m trying to get everyone the best info I have available but sometimes yahoo lags and e-mails get delivered out of order…..just one of those things you deal with Free E-mail accts.

We’re now heading into week 2 and I feel better each day about her outlook!  Keep those prayers coming, as she still has a tough road ahead but she is alive and with us and that is what matters most.  Everything else can come in its own time.  We have true peace about this.

P  <>< 

Numbers 6

24 “The LORD bless you and keep you;

25  the LORD make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you;

26  the LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace.”

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Tam Update 7-18 // 12:30 am

Tam’s MRI from Monday afternoon is showing some swelling on the lower backside of her brain and after speaking with just about every group of Doc’s involved in Tam’s care we are convinced that it is not negatively impacting her. The reason she is lagging in her recovery is very common in people who had a concussion. Post-Concussion Syndrome is the label the Doc’s are throwing out at us and it includes many of the symptoms that Tam is exhibiting. Disorientation, Moodiness, sleepiness…….there are really too many things to list here.

She didn't say anything Monday or today, but you know what, she still had a great day! Tam was calm and peaceful she really didn't fuss too much over anything. She was very interactive and alert for most of the day. She will point to a specific book to be read to her if you give her a choice of 3-4, and she chose one of her Thomas the Train videos and watched a good portion of it without and tossing or turning tonight while I was there. We know it will take time for the brain to heal and we can wait knowing that GOD has his hand on her little life. Isn't it amazing how one little girl can so radically change the lives of so many people? And lives are being radically changed for the better; just to set the record straight!

Tamara was evaluated by Neurology again today and one thing they are focusing on is the weakness in her left arm. Rehab on it will most likely be tough as she is left handed, so weakness in her dominant arm will lead to frustration. We need to pray for her to remain calm and know that she needs to push herself as never before to get back to her baseline.

We are still waiting for her to take something to eat or drink by mouth and hope it’s soon as she hates to NG tube but needs it for nourishment. I took some Capri Sun drinks down to her today hoping that something familiar will get her to start to drink anyway. If she’ll start to at least drink then we can lose the IV and NG tube, and she won’t be connected to anything. Tam has come a long way from everything she was hooked up to just a few days ago but pray that she’ll be able to eat and drink folks. Oh yeah and she’ll be able to lose that annoying TED thing that squeezes your leg at the most inopportune times. Like 3 O’clock in the morning when you’re at your most comfortable. Whoever invented those things was a genius because they help prevent Blood Clots, but heartless at the same time because they’re so intrusive. Oh well…..

During my Men’s Monday Night Football Fellowship gathering this past Fall I shared a thought around the fire pit with some of the guys in my group, and now I wanted to expand it to a larger audience, and very simply put,  here it is: Faith = our unconditional Trust in HIS unconditional Love.  We continue to trust God for HIS ever present help in Tam’s life and ours and we know that HE is already doing and will continue to do Great Things for the advancement of HIS cause through this tough time in our lives!

Tam did NOT move to the Seashore House today, and will most likely be going over tomorrow before 2:00.  Pray for us all, as they facility is VERY different from the Hospital.  No Private rooms, and the amenities are lacking to say the least.  However, one truth remains, and that is that we are thrilled to have Tam taking another small step toward her recovery.

 All for now……Goodnight, “P” <><

 PSALM 100:1 – 5

A psalm. For giving thanks.

 1 Shout for joy to the LORD, all the earth.

 2 Worship the LORD with gladness; come before him with joyful songs.

 3 Know that the LORD is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

 4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.

 5 For the LORD is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations.

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Great new Peter!! I’m glad things are progressing for Tam!  Where is the Seashore House?  Please give Tam a big hug and kiss from us and remember you are in our thoughts and prayers from across the pond.  And I do expect a phone call for me to come over and do something to help you out.  If you don’t I’ll be really mad at you!!!   Love you all,

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I’m so glad to hear she’s doing better.  I can’t even imagine what you all are going thru.

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Thanks for the update….sounds like each day she is making significant progress.  That is great news

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Dear Peter and Sharon,

 It is 7/17……I have been away and I did not know about Tam’s accident!  I just got my email working and read all your messages.  I am in tears.  Thank God Tamara’s prognosis seems favorable……please know that she is in my prayers and I will ask various prayer groups I know to pray for her and your family.  We ask ourselves how could this happen…..especially when coming out of church, of all places?  But I have been so moved by your faith……I see the face of Jesus in you and how you are handling Tamara’s accident and recovery progress.

Thank you for keeping us informed.  Let me know when she is moved to Seashore House…..and if you would like me to talk to the therapist there…if i could be of any help.  Usually……if Tamara is speaking more and more every day, that is a good sign.  That is the period of spontaneous recovery when the brain is healing.  (I use to work in a hospital).  :)

Feel free to call me if I can be of any help.  Give Tamara a big hug from me.

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Peter,

Great update.  Most encouraging yet.  Where is the Seashore House located?  Is it the one in Chalfont or do you have to go down town to be with her the next two weeks?

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Peter,

Our thoughts and prayers will be with everyone!  Let us know how things are going when you get a chance, but please don’t worry about going out of your way.

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Hey Pete & Sharon –

I just wanted to check on the two of you. Is there anything I can do to be helpful? I’d love to help out in some way… laundry, or pick up anything at the store that you guys might need? Just let me know – we are praying for God to keep both of you in His strength while you see Tam through this ordeal and cope with the temporary separation of your family.

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Joy for us, heartbreak for another family.....

I very clearly remember how much of an up and down couple of days the 14^th and 15^th of July 2007 were. Late one night before we moved from the PICU, there was a “STAT” called for a child down the hall and around the corner from Tam’s room. The entire scene was amazing, as everyone available on “7 EAST” at the time dropped what they were doing and sprang into action like a well-oiled machine. After about 20 minutes or so of unintelligible yelling and the sounds of additional people rushing to and fro, the Dr’s and nurses slowly started to filter back to their rooms, many with tears in their eyes; you see, the little one didn’t make it. Their emotions let me know that this was indeed more than just another medical procedure, more than just a job to do; these people truly care about every one of their patients, and they take it personally when one of “their kids” doesn’t pull through despite their best efforts. I remember feeling so incredibly sad for those parents, and then feeling badly because I was happy Tam was still alive, while their child was not. They would never get to tell him happy birthday again, or rock him to sleep when he was scared in a storm, or help him with his homework, or many of the other things that we all as parents take too much for granted. I wept internally for them, and I was deeply conflicted; my right hand holding Sharon’s, and my left resting on top of Tamara’s. Even in the midst of someone else’s pain, I stopped and thanked God once again for the provision and healing He was giving in Tam’s life, and I prayed that He would somehow, some way bring peace to the parents of the dear little one, who was no longer with us. Back to the staff in the PICU for just another moment; Oh my word!!! What a wonderful group of dedicated professionals who showed what they were made of, and where their true passion lay in using all of their experience and knowledge to try to save the life of a child they had only known for a couple of days. May God Bless all doctors and nurses who go into Pediatric Intensive Care, as there are many other specialties they could opt for, but they make the choice to care for very sick or badly injured children, and I applaud them all.

Saturday, Tamara Morgan was driving everyone crazy by pulling her NG tube out countless times, only to have it reinserted, which is apparently not at all pleasant, and I actually had to leave the room during the procedure as it was too much for me to witness. Tam likes to turn over while sleeping to make herself more comfortable, and it was during this time that we also noticed a serious lagging at the same time she was being moved from the PICU to the 4th floor recovery unit (not a favorite place for reasons which I won’t go into here); she was also beginning to speak again. There was one other kind of funny thing that happened with Tam one on one the day after her leg was casted. As I mentioned, she likes to turn over and get comfortable while resting. Well, Tam is quite strong, and when she flipped over one time, Victor (the one on one guy) was a little too close, because as Tamara rolled over, she put a little extra umph into the turn and wailed him right in the chest with her left leg (the one with the cast) and almost knocked him right off his feet.  Now, keep in mind that this guy was built like an NFL Linebacker so it was quite humorous to see his reaction afterward. It was classic! He gathered himself, made sure he caught his breath and said, “I think she will be fine”…”Wow, that’s gonna leave a mark”. I laugh to myself even to this day when I think about it. 😊

The first time I heard Tam's voice was one week after the accident, when we wanted to put one of her Thomas the train video’s on via the X-box in her room.  Well, we didn’t have an X-box and I had no idea how to work one either, so I was frantically trying to get this disc to play, and then in complete defeat I turned to her and said “I’m sorry Tam, I just can’t get it to work”. Tamara looked at me quizzically, as if to say…’Um Daddy, it should be quite a simple task’, but there was one major problem, I could not find a PLAY button. Then it happened; then came that little voice I was sooo longing to hear, and it said….”Push Play”. With tears welling up in my eyes, I ran over to her bed, hugged and kissed her, and told her I loved her, and was so happy to hear her voice. (Yes, I know I just way overused the word “her” in the last sentence, but oh well). Tamara of course looked at me like I had 6 heads or something. Like, ‘I think my daddy is losing his mind, but why’? ‘He’s still relatively young and in fairly good condition’. She just didn’t know how much I missed hearing her speak, and I couldn’t clearly communicate it to her without scaring her, because I was so overcome with emotion. So, note to all: if you push the big red X on top of the X-box it will play a video, good to know!  Ok, so I’m not the world’s smartest guy when it comes to video games, but hey, you got a laugh out of this part, right? J The main point here is that our Tamara Morgan was slowly coming back to us, and we were overjoyed! Anyway, there were more updates from me, and a few more e-mails that I dug up if you have a few moments to read them.  Enjoy, and be blessed!  <><

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Tam Update Saturday 7-14-07 – 10:30 am

Guess what everyone?  Tamara is talking again!!!!  Just a bit but she is talking…..Praise the Lord for HIS goodness! I came home last night so I could spend some time with Ally and Nathaniel today before going back down to the Hospital and Shar called and woke me up at 1:00 am to give me the Great News……Tam woke up and Shar asked if she was okay, and she replied…”I’m sick”, then Shar asked if she could say Mommy…..and she took Sharon literally and said “Mommy, I’m sick”.  She wasn’t throwing up or anything, I think it is just some of the after effects of sedation but she was scheduled for Zantac shortly anyway, so they fixed her up! I spoke with Shar again around 9:00 this morning and she asked Tam is she wanted to watch Thomas (for Tamara Morgan LOVES, LOVES, LOVES Trains) and she said “yes”….then laid there with her eyes closed just listening.

I am overjoyed but not at all surprised at her recovery with all of the prayer going up on her behalf we had peace that this would work out for the best! Shar and I remember that God is good ALL the Time, not just when we get what we want. We are and ever will be thankful for Tam being spared any serious permanent damage, and will share this lesson with anyone who will listen.

Well I’m off to get the other kids for a bit, so I’ll write more later from CHOP!

 Love to you all!

 P  <><

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Tam Update 7-14 (afternoon & evening):

Tamara had a tough day on Saturday and consequently I didn’t feel much like writing.  L

7-15 (12:15 am)

So, here I am again Sunday night….Tam has pulled out her NG tube yet again, and although we thought we could be finished with it she hasn’t been cleared for anything by mouth yet, and she needs her seizure meds so keep it she must. I had to leave the room as that is a procedure I just cannot witness, and Shar being a nurse is much more used to it. So I go out in the hall or the lounge and pray and think of how it will be tomorrow. Not that I want to wish away one second of Tamara’s little life, but I wish we could sort of fast forward over the next couple of days. Although she is talking again, it’s only sporadic, and I got to hear her today. Oh my word, I almost cried but I didn’t want to worry her so I held back my tears and smiled and kissed her and held her hands!!!! That is what being a Father is all about!  It kind of hits you hard when you hear your baby speak for the time in a week. I know this is turning into more of a forum than an update, and I apologize, but well.  sorry…..

I shared with a co-worker the other day that it may seem like I’m hammering people with God lately and I know some of you believe as I do and some don’t, but when HE makes himself real to you, you just have to Tell Everyone about it! I have come closer to God in the last week than I have been I quite some time, not only because he kept Tam with us, but because it’s only by HIS strength that I have been able to make it all. I have shed more tears and spent more time on my knees than in any other time in my life. This situation has rejuvenated prayer in many places and that in and of itself is a wonderful thing!

 I took Ally and Nathaniel to church today and then we went down to CHOP so they could see their big sister for a while. My mom and dad also came by and it was good for them to see her finally.  Shar’s mom just recently had surgery herself and we certainly do not expect her to come down to the city; there will be plenty of time for Tamara to reunite with Mom Mom and Pop Pop when she returns home. All in all our time at CHOP has been very positive, and there is no other Dept that I would want Tam to have come to than the 7 East PICU, the staff there is second to none in the entire hospital! While we do sincerely appreciate the visitors that came to see her before she was moved to 4 South, we really didn’t want a lot of people coming and seeing her there.  It wasn’t the best picture for anyone to remember.

 low-lights and Highlights for the day:

*Tam removed 2 NG tubes, which are very difficult to replace.

*She said she had to go (first time she has been able to communicate that to us) but wouldn’t use the bedpan.  We’ll get there!

 ** Tamara said more things today that lead us to believe that she is on the road to recovery.  When asked her age she said “I am 9″…..she also said “I want”…..Sharon asked what she wanted and she finished with “I want that off”. Apparently the TV was bothering her. Normally Tamara knows what she wants and will let you know. This is a Good Thing! She also said “Push Play” to me referring to her Train video.

Then she said “Bye bye Nathaniel”  “Bye bye Allyson” when her brother and sister were leaving.

**Tam had her PT Eval with Dr. Drake from Rehab and will be moved to the Seashore House for 2-3 weeks of intense therapy beginning Monday or Tuesday.

**Shar was holding some books in her hands and Tam grabbed the one that she wanted read.

**We had a little game (Tam and I) when she was little called Beep.  I would bonk her nose lightly and say beep, and then she would do it back, usually a lot harder than I did, but it was cute.  I gave her a little beep on the nose today and she gave me one back.  I nearly melted…..

 7:15 am Monday 7-16

We feel much better about where Tam is in the last 2 days, so much better that I will attempt to go back to work today. Pray that I am ready emotionally! I’ve tried this once already and it didn’t go well….

 Thanks to all of you for putting up with me being so verbose, but sometimes when I get on a roll it just happens.

 Tam is scheduled for an MRI of her head today (not sure what time) so she can be cleared to begin rehab at the Seashore House.

 More at lunchtime today!

 P  <><

 John 1:16 (ESV)

And from His fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.

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Peter,

 I was so sad to hear of Tamara and wanted to reach out to you. We are holding Tamara, you and your family up in our prayers. If you feel like talking or just need an ear to listen, feel free to call on 215-xxx-xxxx (my cell).

 Yours in Christ,

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Peter,

Thank you for the update. We’re on the road but want you to know that my prayers won’t take a vacation. Keep us posted.

God bless you, brother!

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Peter,

 Great verse by the way! (i.e. John 1:16). So are you saying here that Tam will be at a division of CHOP for 2 to 3 weeks? If so, WOW you guys are going to need all kinds of help! Even if it is outpatient, that is really a lot. Hope I am wrong and she can come home soon. I can’t imagine why they can’t let her eat either. Good progress still. Keep up your hope in HIM.

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Peter & Sharon,

 Thanks so much for the updates. Though the journey has been tough, it sounds as if Tamara is making great strides in her recovery. We’ll continue our prayers for her speedy recovery and that the Lord takes special care of you and Sharon during this difficult time.

 God Bless.

Days 5 & 6: Tam gets her cast and shows signs of improvement!

The main post will be shorter today, as I am just including more “Tam” updates as usual below.  We were nearing the end of the first week at CHoP when Tamara was stabilizing. The Dr's were prepping us for Tam's transition out of the PICU and down to Recovery, and then eventually over to Seashore House for Rehab.  Please take a few min's to read through my updates for Days 5 & 6, and notice the times I posted a couple of them.  I was usually so wired after arriving home from the hospital that I would stay up for another hour or so trying to work through everything that had happened during the day.  One great thing about CHOP is the way they take care of families, as a whole. Something simple (but important to me), was the availability of coffee in the family lounge before I'd head home after saying goodnight to Tam and Shar. I'd grab a pack of Graham crackers and a quick coffee and then hit the road for the night. This was the first experience I had with a Keurig, and I was hooked! 😃😉

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Tam Update 7-12-07 1:15 am

Tam had her MRI on Wednesday morning and the results did show some ligament damage in her neck so she will need to keep the cervical collar on for about 4 weeks.  She is NOT going to like that one bit.  She is getting her leg casted on Thursday morning. (We Hope)  It’s been a very long day and I’ll have to write more in the am after I speak with Shar….

 Goodnight, and Thank you all for your support in Prayer!

 P <><

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Tam Update 7-13-07 12:15 am (Please feel free to forward this information along)

Tamara had a follow up CAT Scan of her head first thing Thursday morning, and there is nothing negative to report. As I stated earlier she is NOT liking the Collar one bit and when she does wake up briefly it’s usually the first thing she reaches for, but we can distract her and then she goes back to sleep. She is getting her leg casted on <blank> morning. (We’re not sure yet, as the Docs need to see her fully awake first.)  It was a very long day but Tamara was much more settled today. I think the huge amount of drugs she had forced into her little body are finally wearing off and we’ll see the old Tam emerge very shortly. Shar and I cannot wait to hear that little voice…..Oh my gosh, we so miss it!  I’ll be at the Hospital all day again Friday (later today actually) and I’ll do my best to try to get on the PC in the Family Lounge, but it’s been a busy week for many families at CHOP.

As always Sharon and I Thank you all for your support in Prayer! Keep them coming….

P <><

Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version)

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

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Tam Update 7-13-07.2 – 11:29 am

Tam finally got her cast this morning (it’s a beautiful Red), and now we just need to continue on getting her to wake up and talk to us. I’ll have more later, but I just wanted to pass along this quick update. Shar and I would like to take this opportunity to say a public thanks to my Mom and Dad for watching Nathaniel and Allyson since the accident, and their prayer support! Thanks to Shar’s Mom and Dad as well for being there in prayer! We’d also like to pass along thanks to everyone we work with and the Mgt at Advanta and Abington Memorial for being so supportive! We continue to Totally Trust God through this difficult situation, and know that many good things will come from it.

More Later!

P  <><

If the verse below sounds familiar you might recognize that U2 did a song back in the early days called “40″ and it was based on Psalm 40:

 1 I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry.

 2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire;

    he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.

 3 He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God.

    Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD.

 4 Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust,

    who does not look to the proud, to those who turn aside to false gods.

Tam @ CHOP - Days 3 & 4 (Day 1 revisited)

On days 3 and 4 we were flooded with loads of support via calls and e-mails from family and friends (see below for the emails). I can honestly say that although we might have had something to be depressed about, we were focused on Tam and how God had He had gotten us through every second of this ordeal so far. We were becoming stronger individually, but more importantly we were growing stronger as a couple as a result and that has to be a good thing, right???  :) So many times "bad" things happen and it crushes families beyond repair. No matter what the outcome, we were resolved not to have our family be just another statistic! Not too much to rehash for days 3 and 4, I’ll let the updates below take care of that. J

So.....let’s rewind just a couple of min’s: 2 things I wanted to share from Day 1 that I neglected to mention....starting with the more serious of the 2. Sharon and I were sitting in church that morning and for some reason she pointed out Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” (ESV).  Little did we know that we would be hearing that verse repeated by our dear sister Sherry on the roadside after the accident. It was immediately after finding out that Tamara has been hit that I ran from the front doors of the church and started south on  Rt. 202 for the entrance to Doylestown Hospital's driveway, where I could see a lot of activity. I never ran the 440 so fast in my life (coach Benner would have been proud), it was pure adrenaline! As I approached the accident scene a policeman was running toward me, I guess he didn't want just anyone there, I stopped just short of where he was trying to catch my breath and he asked who I was.....I was able to squeak out "I'm Tamara's father".  He put his hand on my shoulder and with a halfhearted smile, assured me that she was alive. Oh my word! A Ten Thousand pound weight was immediately lifted from my shoulders. Tam was alive! So many thoughts flooded my brain right then…like how we would have another chance to hold her, and kiss her goodnight, and wish her more happy birthday’s! Just then, another officer came over and said Tam was being prepped for transport to Philly, and that he wasn't sure if it would be Jefferson or CHoP. I said “CHoP without question; she is already a patient there”! Suddenly, I could hear Sharon yelling from about 200 yards away...."where is she???” with utter desperation in her voice. For some reason I didn't respond at first, I just turned back to the Sgt. to see what other info he could give me. Again Shar screamed, with that uncertainty that only comes from asking about the unknown..."WHERE IS SHE???"  This time it registered loud and clear, and I responded by yelling back and motioning that she was already taken down to the hospital by ambulance. Now there were more people accompanying Sharon on her journey. I went back to her and just held her and said that Tam was alive but needed to go to CHoP immediately, I could feel the sheer relief as she melted into my arms. Sherry was there along with Al, and Toni Ann and Dave, and I said we need to pray (I could hardly get the words out), and we all just dropped to a knee (we were "Tebowing" before Tim did it). Anyway, Sherry started us off with none other than Jeremiah 29:11, saying that we knew He had nothing but good plans for Tam's life, plans not for ruin, but for good. We all prayed for several more minutes, each one taking a turn, and then we all cried and just held each other. I don't think I have ever felt that much of an outpouring of the power of God in my entire life, with the exception of the day I finally gave my wayward life to Christ. Then, almost immediately after we had finished our impromptu prayer meeting, the PennStar Chopper flew overhead and we knew we had to get down to CHoP, and quickly! Shar and I went back over to the church to let our other children know what had happened and to let them know they would be going with the Anton's for a while. As we were leaving the church parking lot (in Bill's sweet, red convertible Audi) I made sure to ask Ally and Nathaniel to be praying for their big sister.  Nathaniel asked why again, and I told him Tamara had been hit by a car and she needed to go to the hospital.  (here is the other thing I wanted to share from day 1.) Nathaniel, in his cutest little, barely 4 year old voice told the other children who were there at the time..."Tamara Dot Hit by a Tar!!!!” It was all I could do not to laugh....he had no idea how those 6 little words made all the difference to me for just a few seconds as we drove out of sight. The toughest part now was the uncertainty of Tam’s actual condition; as we never saw her before she was flown down to CHoP, so we had no idea what to expect. On our way down to Philly, Brent and Bill were great, not saying too much but knowing just when to interject, and having exactly the right words, at exactly the right moment. It was so a God thing! Sharon rode up front and I was in the seat behind her.  We just held hands front to back and prayed, and talked and I'm sure we even had several light moments mixed in there. Like how I forgot to put on Sun block before getting in the car, and how my head was gonna be fried when we got downtown. Bill had the top down on his convertible and it was a bright, sunny and beautiful day! One thing that I always remember is what an absolutely awesome day it was weather wise. Very similar to the weather on Tuesday Sept 11, 2001, but that is another Blog post for another day. All for now! 

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Tam Update 7-11-07 8:00 am  Hello Everyone! Tam was still doing fairly well when I left CHOP around 10:15 last night. Here's a quick follow up to Monday; Her O2 level which was very unstable, has been great and the DR's are Very encouraged to see her not needing the ventilator as much as the first day or so. The antibiotics appear to have done the trick with clearing up her "Post Op" infection and her fever is gone. So there are some of the good things. The one bad thing for the day is that we found out from a Trauma Nurse Practitioner that she still has a slight margin for concern with reference to a brain injury, although the Doc's we asked were not concerned. Enough said there! Just to rule out anything serious, Tam is scheduled to have an MRI of her head and neck at 8:30 on Wed morning 7-11.  ***WED Update #2*** I spoke with Sharon at 7:30 this morning and she said Tam had a very restful night. (first one in the hospital so far, Praise God!) and she was still waiting to hear about the exact time for Tam's MRI. As soon as I hear from Shar, I'll send another update. Most likely around lunch time today. God continues to be our Rock on which we stand firm!  P <><

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. --Philippians 4:4-7 ******************************************************************************************************************

Below are some e-mails from which I have removed the "Sender’s" names to protect the innocent. J

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We're earnestly praying for Tam and you guys too! So much going on! I'll be requesting prayer at prayer meeting tomorrow night so you'll have a few hundred more praying for her too :O) ******************************************************************************************************************

Dear Peter and Sharon~ I hope you don't mind, but I got your address from one of your updates. I just want to let you both know that you are all in our prayers. From the moment of corporate prayer in the sanctuary Sunday morning, until now, we've been in constant prayer. We praise God with you that Tamara's injuries are not more serious, and are confident that Tamara has been given a very attentive angel by our great God!   :) I also want to compliment you on your wonderful attitude regarding pointing fingers. I'm sure your mercy has provided much relief to anyone who may feel responsible. What a horrible burden to carry. I have been praying not only for Tamara's recovery, but for you and Sharon, for just such an attitude of grace and mercy. You are both a wonderful example of Christ's love. In Christ, ******************************************************************************************************************

All my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  Tam will be receiving a present - probably tomorrow - unfortunately it will not say who it’s from (cause I forgot). It's from all your friends here at Advanta.  Positive Thoughts!!!!! ******************************************************************************************************************

Hi P.S. -- my thoughts and prayers have been with you and your family. Sounds like you are all staying strong. God Bless! ******************************************************************************************************************

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Dear Peter, Sharon and family, Thank you so much for keeping us posted on Tamara's progress. We just want you to know that you guys and Tamara are rarely far from our thoughts and prayers.  We're thanking God for His provision and are praying for her comfort and your peace.  Please let us know if we can help in any way, In His Love, ******************************************************************************************************************

Hi Peter and Sharon - Thanks for the update on Tamara.  I just got off the phone with Letty to see how she was doing and how Tamara was doing and she updated me on the surgery and plans for cast.  When I read the email about Tamara when it first came through I started crying because I knew she has already been through a lot and Letty has had some health issues of her own.  God is in the midst of all of our prayers.  What do people do without the Lord?????????  The God of the Universe who orders the steps of a righteous man or woman.  WOW!!!! Again, thanks Pete for the update. In His Love ******************************************************************************************************************

, I am so happy and relieved that Tamara is doing well. When I first heard the news it hit me like a ton of bricks. My niece was hit by a car 6 months ago and was flown to Children's Hospital too (she is okay). The Doctors there were great. A parent’s worst nightmare. I thank God that she is doing well and that it was not more serious. I hope that you are holding up and I will continue to pray for Tamara and for you guys as well as for healing and strength. God bless you all. ******************************************************************************************************************

Dear Pete and Sharon, We don't understand why these things happen, but we know that we have a God who loves Tamara and is holding her in the palm of His hand. Please know that we are and will be praying for her and her complete recovery. We pray that during these anxious hours of waiting, God will prove Himself very precious to you both. Love and prayers, ******************************************************************************************************************

Dear Peter and Sharon, We are saddened to hear what happened to Tamara on Sunday.  We are praying for complete healing for her little body.  We pray that God will give you both strength and guidance to get through this difficult time. Let us know if we can help in any way. In Him,

Day two.....Surgery!

So, below is the post for Day 2 of Tam’s ordeal from 2007. I wanted to post this last night but felt like I’d be rushing it, and since I’m under no professional deadline, I decided to delay and ruminate on it a bit longer. J

Shar and I were talking yesterday and I asked if she could give me any further personal insights from 7-8-07, and she said “it was unreal”…” like you just can’t believe it’s happening”. I agreed and then wrongly used the term surreal to describe my view. Sharon’s term fits so much better than mine.

Surreal implies that we are thrust into a dreamlike situation, where, even though we almost immediately become unwilling participants, we have no fear of having it morph into reality. As if we’ve been pulled into a Dali painting, but with full knowledge that we can we never really become a melting clock or anything so bizarre.

However, “Unreal” forces us to look at things like this; we have just become spontaneous actors in a very real situation from which there is no visible escape; a game which must be played out, regardless of our wishing it would just go away. Just like when we were children and could close our eyes for a long time, and then suddenly reopen them hoping against hope that the unreality of the day would magically be gone. When our eyes were opened, we came to the realization, that this is stark, in your face reality, and that the only thing we could do was fall on our faces before a holy and righteous God, and trust in His deliverance from or comfort in this trial, like any other in our lives. OK...now back to your regularly scheduled Tam post!

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In these posts, I am going to try to give as much as detail as I can remember about July 2007, without going too crazy on the length. Day two was a big day but not too many items to report…..here we go!

So, after a great night’s sleep, on a sheet covered rock called a “bed”, in a closet called a “Sleeping Room”, I went up the 7 East PICU to help Shar begin day 2 of Tam’s road to recovery. Even though I had spent the entire previous day with Tamara and Sharon I was still shocked to walk in and see the 168 thousand different wires and tubes sticking out of her little body. Actually, it was only about 8 wires and tubes including a ventilator and an NG feeding tube. We’ll revisit the dreaded NG tube in the days ahead. Tam also had one of those awful “C” Collars for the strained ligaments in her neck. She looked so uncomfortable and it hurt to look at her like that, but considering the alternative, we took it and never looked back. As a result of this time of trial, the following excerpts from Psalm 91 became some of the bedrock verses of my life and still are to this day!

See below for the day's important update!  :)

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 Psalm 91 has some Great and True promises that I love to gather strength from in tough times:

1 He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High, will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. 

2 I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”

14 “Because he loves me,” says the LORD, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.

15 He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.

See the 2 e-mails below for the details from day 2 and we’ll be back tomorrow with more!  Peter & Sharon  <><

7-9-07 11:35 am – Update

Hello All,

For those who haven’t yet heard.  Tamara was hit by a car yesterday after sneaking away from her Sunday school class.  We attend First Baptist Church in Doylestown and it happened right in front of the church.  (next to Doylestown Hospital)  She was flown from Doylestown to CHOP in about 10 Min’s and quickly taken into Trauma to begin extensive testing.  She has a badly fractured lower left leg and will most likely to have rods inserted to hold the bones in place during healing.  Surgery is scheduled for today between 12 & 2.  Sorry I cannot be more specific, but she is an “Add on” in an already busy Monday schedule. 

After many additional tests the Dr’s are 100% confident that there are no other issues to deal with, which is truly a "praise" in itself.

I will send another update as soon as we have more info, but suffice it to say that we feel the prayers, so please keep them coming.  We know the with God’s strength and love Tam will come through this just fine and we’ll ALL be better for the experience.

No root cause analysis needs to be done here, no blame is being placed and no fingers are being pointed.  This is just something that happened, and it could have happened on ANYONE’s watch.  Now we just need to deal with it to make sure we have better controls and procedures in place to prevent this type of thing in the future.  Tamara has been a groundbreaker ever since she was born, so it’s no surprise that she was at the center of this important, life-changing event!

Love and appreciate you all Very Much!

More later!

P  <><

7-9-07 6:24 pm – Update

Hey all!

Sorry for the lateness of this e-mail but it’s crazy trying to get on-line here with all of the other parents trying to send e-mails.  Great reason to get a Blackberry I suppose.  :)

Enough of that, here’s the news you wanted to hear! 

Tam came through the Surgery with Flying colors (as expected) and is resting comfortably.  The procedure only took about 45 Min’s, and she can have the Pins removed in 6 months.  Dr. Flynn Rocks!

Right now the swelling is bad so she will not be casted until Wednesday.  Initially, she will have a full leg cast (hip to ankle) for the rest of July, then we’ll switch over to a half cast for August.  Total time in the cast should be about 6 weeks, and we’ll take that any time considering that she had a fight with a car. 

Thanks again on behalf of Tam, Sharon and myself for all of the Prayers, Love and Support…..we couldn’t stay strong without all of you lifting us up!

More in the a.m.

Goodnight!

P